We are born into a world filled with promises. We have hopes of our own and for others; we have plans for our future and the future of others; we invest our resources, our talents and skills, our dreams, our heart. The greater the expectation, the greater the grief will be when they’re not fulfilled. As mentioned elsewhere, it is the job of the brain to predict; but it’s not the prediction that brings about the grief, it is the expectation that we’ll get the desired outcome.

named. In our rage or our desolation or our confusion at the time of loss, it is almost impossible to understand that what we felt that was "taken" was in fact not given for us to have; that what we felt was "taken" was in fact only the illusion of our expectation.

    The grief over a lost expectation is just as real and valid as the grief that comes from the loss of a person. When we can recognize the things we’ve hoped for that were lost we may better be able to allow the natural healing process to work its wise and compassionate course in us. 

Read more about the aspects of loss through the appropriate link to the right.

Nyo. "As it is," the way things are, without delusion, without illusion.