Perhaps you yourself have experienced loss and did not emote grief in ways others expected of you, leaving you to feel something was wrong with you.

    A fundamental function of the human brain is to predict. We all carry a representation of how we think the world “ought” to be, and when the “ought” is over ruled by life events the mind cannot easily accommodate the shock. When the unpredictable occurs we are thrown out of balance like a wheel out of alignment with it’s axle.  

   Regardless of culture, age, gender or ethnicity, the extent to which there is an attachment — regardless of what the object or nature of attachment is — there will be a commensurate grief reaction when the attachment is broken.

    When in doubt over whether your reaction to loss is normal, you may wish to consider whether the loss might have been predicted and whether the loss fit within the context of one’s belief about the order of the universe.

Read more about the aspects of loss through the appropriate link to the right.

    However, not everyone grieves the same. The outward manifestations of grief will differ from culture to culture, circumstance to circumstance, individual to individual.

    The mere fact that a person does not manifest the signs of grief we might recognize does not mean they’re not experiencing grief, nor does it mean their grief is delayed, unresolved or blocked. It is not uncommon for family members, friends or even mental health professionals to be concerned about a person who does not manifest grief in ways commonly understood.

Nyo. "As it is," the way things are, without delusion, without illusion.